Let’s pretend for a moment that you are stopping for a power coffee on your way to work. Today is the day are you to present the project that you have been working on for weeks. The project is perfect with all of the various fonts and colorful graphics. The drive thru at the coffee place is about 10 cars long so you decide to go inside and order. As you get in line, you notice the women in front of you. You notice her perfectly framed sunglasses and great hair along with that fabulous outfit, shoes, and matching purse. You glance down at yourself and think why in the world did I wear this awful mess???!!!
Or how about this one: it is your turn to help with the classroom party at school. You bake your cupcakes from a boxed mix, frost them with some canned frosting and add just a dash of sprinkles. You put your cupcakes in your old trusted Tupperware carrier and gather up your Bingo game with printed computer pictures and off you go. You arrive at the school and as you are walking down the halls, you naturally sneak a peak into some other classrooms. You begin to say to yourself, “Am I at a Pinterest convention?” The rooms seemed to have been decorated by Martha Stewart and all of the goodies have been baked by Julia Child!! You then keep your head down low, dart into your child’s room hoping no one noticed your plastic clothes basket filled with smashed cupcakes and computer generated Bingo game. You now begin to pray for a fire drill so the party will be canceled due to natural causes.
I do not think we have to pretend about the way we feel sometimes in these types of situations. How often do you get on Facebook and see the lives of others and think “I wish my life was like that”? This idea of always comparing ourselves and our deeds to what others have done is a terrible trap that us as women often fall into. From our work, to our appearances, to our families, we often make up a comparison list of “I Have and I Have Not.”
One important thing we must remember is that we are all unique and different. We all have strengths, we all have weaknesses, and it is OK to have weaknesses. Sometimes what we view as weaknesses are really just differences instead.
Do you compare these parts of your life with others?
- Your Home– Is my home nice enough? Cozy enough? Spacious enough?
- Clothing– This one was touched on earlier and can be a major comparison point for us as women.
- Body Image– Am I too fat? Why are my feet so big? Why am I not beautiful??? You get the picture here.
- Volunteering Of Your Time– Some folks just seem to have all of the extra free time to work on this school project or give to this charity and I do not have 5 minutes to spare. Why can’t I ever seem to do enough?
Instead of comparing your purse and cupcakes to someone else, we need to look within ourselves and figure out our strengths and unique qualities that make us different and special from everyone else. There are things that each of us are really good. Sometimes we just need a little bit of help in figuring out what they are.
Not sure how to figure your strengths and unique qualities? I have put together these tips to help you pinpoint what your strengths may be.
- Ask a few trusted friends or family members to name a few things that you are really good at.
- What are your passionate about doing?
- You are happiest doing what?
Write down all of these answers and read your list over a few times. Which qualities stand out? The ones that stand out to you will be your strengths and your unique power producing qualities. Gather together your strengths on a piece of paper and post it somewhere where you can read it everyday and believe it everyday. Once you can convince yourself that you are great at something and that you do have strengths, nothing can stop you!
When we are able to stop comparing ourselves to others and focus on our strengths and uniqueness and then appreciate it, we tend to like ourselves more which leads to self confidence and inner beauty. When we have more self confidence and inner beauty, we can then naturally become more comfortable with who we are. When we are comfortable with ourselves, it really doesn’t matter all that much any more what others are doing.
I just want to be the best ME that I can be: beautiful on the inside and out. God has created each of us with a set of gifts, strengths, passions, and talents. We can’t let the comparing of ourselves with others get in the way of who we need to be through HIM. Go be Unique, Strong and Beautiful today!